Maintaining a healthy marriage is easier than healing an unhealthy marriage.
If you want a healthy marriage or you want your marriage to stay healthy take the
time and effort each day to nurture it. If your marriage is currently unhealthy the sooner you start healing it
the easier it will be.
The steps to maintain a healthy marriage and to heal an unhealthy marriage are
the same. The only difference is time. You will need to spend more time and effort healing an unhealthy marriage
than maintaining a healthy one.
One of the steps to forming and sustaining a healthy marriage is to learn basic
relationship skills and insights. These include respect, forgiveness, time, service, appreciation, conflict management
and many others.
We have developed The Keys to Unlocking the Door to a Healthy and Happy Marriage
pamphlet series to help you learn these and other skills. On average it takes 3 weeks to develop a habit. We recommend
you spend about 3 weeks per topic implementing the skill or insight you learn from the pamphlet in your marriage.
Or if you are taking the 10 Week Swim-N-Air, Strengthen Your Marriage Challenge
then we recommend you read and implement the pamphlets on the following schedule :
Forgiveness 1st week
Respect 2nd and 3rd week
Agape 4th week
Prayer 5th week
Affection 6th week
Time-Out 7th week
Appreciation 8th week
Time 9th week
Service 10th week
Click on the title of each pamphlet to view and print it.
As you start using these skills and knowledge, you may encounter resistance on
the part of your spouse. This comes as a total surprise for many people. This is the opposite reaction they expect
as they make positive changes in their marital relationship. This reaction is actually normal. Researchers have
found you will encounter resistance for an average of three weeks. For some couples it is less, and for some couples
it is more. Researchers discovered a change in behavior around the three week mark. Most people will stop resisting
positive change at this point and will instead reciprocate the positive change.
Exercising can also sometimes be hazardous to your marital health. If you are not
careful, your spouse may become resentful and develop negative feelings towards you as you work out.
To decrease your chances of damaging your marital relationship, we recommend the following:
1. Do not ask your spouse to exercise with you.
2. Accept the eating habits, exercise habits, and the body shape of your spouse. Don't try to force him or her
to change anything.
3. Make sure your spouse knows you love him or her just the way he or she is.
4. The most important tip is to work extra hard at strengthening your relationship. Even if you do the first three
tips perfectly your spouse could still end up resenting your exercising.
Even if you are 100% sure exercising will have a positive impact on your marriage you still should learn and implement
the strengthening marriage tips.
We all should be doing more to strengthen our marriages. All the time and effort spent strengthening your marriage
will significantly increase your chances of living a healthier and happier life.
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We believe our products and services are very valuable. Where possible, we
believe that value should be determined by you after you have had a chance to use it. We also want the products we develop to be accessible to everyone
regardless of their financial situation.
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healthy marriages. Investors in our social enterprise company do not receive financial dividends. We strive to use every donated or earned dollar as effectively
as possible to increase the number of healthy marriages.
Thank you for trusting us to use your money to help strengthen marriages.
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